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Let's Talk About Consent

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28 Sep 2021

5 Min Read

Denise Chang (Guest Contributor), Josephine Serena (Editor)

IN THIS ARTICLE

Kris Wu, a Chinese pop star and former member of the K-pop band, EXO, sparked debates about sexual consent in China following his recent scandal for allegedly trying to deceive young women multiple times into having sexual relations with him — ie. arrested for suspicion of rape. 

 

I’m sure we’re no stranger to many other similar cases with regards to sexual harassment and consent in Malaysia. I gave a lot of thoughts about this issue and hence, I’m here to talk about consent and to raise awareness about the consequences of non-consent.

 

According to Google, consent is defined as ‘permission for something to happen or agreement to do something’. Consent must be clearly and freely given through communication, either verbally or nonverbally. It’s important as it sets not just your personal boundaries but also your partner’s. Any sexual activity with the absence of consent is considered sexual assault or rape.

FRIES

Though the ‘C’ in consent may be confusing to some, it can be easily cleared following the acronym FRIES, which stands for: 

Freely given: Consent must be freely given and not forced

 

Reversible: Consent can be reversed and withdrawn

 

Informed: Someone must be informed in order for consent to be present

 

Enthusiasm: You should only do what you feel like doing 

 

Specific: You should be specific in what you’re about to do and if your partner is okay with it

Our Taylorian, Denise talks about the importance of consent and giving consent. 

 

Trigger Warning! 

This article consists of topics revolving around rape and sexual violence. Please read at your own discretion.

Sexual Coersion

Let's Talk About Consent

According to an article on The Rakyat Post, the Malaysian Penal Code (Act 574), Section 375, states that the age of consent to have sex in Malaysia is 16 years old. But, the Sexual Offenses Against Children Act of 2017 states that any sexual conduct with a minor or child below the age of 18 is illegal and is deemed as a sexual offence. In 2020, it was found that 90% of sexual assaults in Selangor itself involve underaged girls. The police stated that most of the victims were approached through the Internet and eventually groomed to have sex with the offenders.

 

Following that, what is a coerced sexual contract? This is something we don’t often talk about. Any persistent persuasion, threats, guilt trips, or using drugs and alcohol that are intended for you to give in counts as coercion.

 

The reason why sexual coercion is one of the worst could mainly be because the offender can say “But they said yes!” More than often victims are manipulated until they don’t even realise they’ve been assaulted. But as mentioned before, sexual consent must be expressed voluntarily, you can also read this article written by a fellow Taylor’s University student about sexual harassment.

 

Some examples of sexual coercion are:

 

“You would do it for me if you love me”, “You should be grateful I’m with you, I could sleep with anyone anytime”, “You must be cheating on me seeing how you’re refusing to do it with me”.

 

There are more examples you can find in this article.

 

To top it off, many are reluctant to speak up due to fear of being stigmatised. In Malaysia, talks of sexual consent and harassment are typically a taboo topic and victim-blaming isn’t uncommon in the community.

 

I was baffled when a brave student exposed her school teacher’s inappropriate rape jokes, was slammed with a RM1mil lawsuit. She was also cyberbullied a lot when the #MakeSchoolASaferPlace hashtag started trending as people were siding with the teacher, “It's just a joke”. Perhaps this is the reason why a lot of sexual assault victims don’t speak up to those in power and authority. Sometimes, the victims are put at fault instead.

 

One of the YouTube videos I’ve watched and will never forget is about a former air stewardess who was raped in her apartment building and was blamed for what she wore and not praying enough. It was pure devastation for me, I can’t imagine how hard it is for her. It shows that Malaysia has a long way to go when it comes to consent and awareness about sexual harassment. 

Conclusion

Let's Talk About Consent

It’s important to know, sexual assault can happen to anyone regardless of age, gender, and relationship, anywhere and anytime. If you need help, don’t hesitate to call the Telenita Helpline at 03-78770224 (Mondays to Fridays, 9:30AM-4:30PM) for free counselling and legal information. You can also read here for more info regarding what to do after a sexual assault.

Denise Chang is a student of Bachelor of Mass Communication (Honours) (Digital Media Production) at Taylor's University. She is also the Secretary for Taylor’s AKPK Club and Assistant Director of Events for Taylor’s Nature Club.

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